Summary. What process is owed, what changes when a disability is involved, and the questions to ask before the meeting.


The meeting nobody prepared for

A parent gets a call at 10:40 on a Tuesday. There has been an incident. The student is in the office. Can you come in.

By the time the parent arrives, the school has interviewed the student — usually without the parent present, which is generally permissible — reviewed statements, reached a conclusion, and decided on a consequence. The meeting the parent walks into is frequently not a fact-finding meeting. It is an announcement.

What the law provides depends almost entirely on one variable: how long the removal is.


Due process, and the line that matters

Goss v. Lopez, 419 U.S. 565 (1975), holds that a public school student has a property interest in education and a liberty interest in reputation, and that a suspension may not be imposed without due process.

But the process owed for a short suspension is minimal:

  • Oral or written notice of the charges
  • An explanation of the evidence the school has
  • An opportunity to present the student's side of the story

That is it. No lawyer. No witnesses. No hearing. And the Court expressly said that in most cases these can occur in an informal conversation minutes after the conduct, and that where a student poses a continuing danger or an ongoing threat of disruption, the removal may happen first and the process follow as soon as practicable.

For a long-term suspension or an expulsion, more is required — and the specifics come from state law and district policy rather than from federal constitutional minimums. Typically:

  • Written notice of the charges, the evidence, the proposed consequence, and the hearing date
  • A hearing before a hearing officer, a panel, or the school board
  • The right to be represented, frequently by counsel
  • The right to present evidence and to question witnesses
  • A written decision
  • An appeal to the superintendent, the board, or a state agency
  • The provision of educational services during a long removal, which many states require

The practical instruction: find the district's discipline policy and the state's education code provisions before the meeting. They are public, they are the operative rules, and they contain deadlines and rights the school will not volunteer.


When the student has a disability

This is the most consequential section in this article, and the protections it describes are routinely unknown to the families who need them.

The ten-day line

Under the Individuals with Disabilities Education Act — 20 U.S.C. § 1400 and following, with the procedural safeguards at § 1415 — a school may remove a student with a disability for up to ten school days in a year as it would any other student.

Beyond ten cumulative school days, the removal becomes a change of placement, and additional protections attach.

Watch for the accumulation. Ten days is reached faster than families expect — a series of one- and two-day suspensions, plus in-school removals where services are not provided, plus days sent home early. Count them.

The manifestation determination

Before a removal that constitutes a change of placement, the school must convene a team to answer two questions:

  1. Was the conduct caused by, or did it have a direct and substantial relationship to, the child's disability?
  2. Was the conduct the direct result of the school's failure to implement the IEP?

If the answer to either is yes, the conduct is a manifestation — and the student generally may not be removed. The team must conduct a functional behavioral assessment and implement or revise a behavior intervention plan, and return the student to the placement unless the parent agrees to a change.

If the answer to both is no, the student may be disciplined as any other student would be — but must continue to receive educational services enabling participation in the general curriculum and progress toward IEP goals.

Special circumstances — weapons, drugs, or serious bodily injury — permit removal to an interim alternative educational setting for up to 45 school days regardless of manifestation.

Stay-put

If the parent disputes the manifestation determination or the placement and files for a due process hearing, the stay-put provision generally keeps the student in the current placement during proceedings — with the exception of the 45-day special-circumstances removals.

The Supreme Court addressed the predecessor of this provision in Honig v. Doe, 484 U.S. 305 (1988), holding that the statute means what it says and does not contain an implied dangerousness exception permitting indefinite unilateral exclusion — while recognizing that a school may seek injunctive relief for a genuinely dangerous student.

The protection for students not yet identified

A student who has not been found eligible may still be entitled to these protections if the school had knowledge that the student had a disability before the conduct — for example, because the parent expressed concern in writing, requested an evaluation, or because school personnel had raised specific concerns about a pattern of behavior.

Which makes this the single most useful thing a parent can do: if you suspect a disability, request an evaluation in writing, and keep the copy. It starts a timeline, and it establishes knowledge.

Section 504

A student who does not qualify under IDEA may have a 504 plan, with its own protections — including a manifestation-style analysis before a significant change in placement — and its own procedural safeguards.


Speech

Tinker v. Des Moines Independent Community School District, 393 U.S. 503 (1969), holds that students do not shed their constitutional rights at the schoolhouse gate, and that school officials may not punish student expression unless it would materially and substantially interfere with the operation of the school or invade the rights of others.

"Undifferentiated fear or apprehension of disturbance is not enough." The standard requires facts, not discomfort.

Later cases narrowed it in specific settings — lewd or vulgar speech at a school assembly, school-sponsored expression bearing the school's imprimatur, and speech reasonably viewed as promoting illegal drug use at a school event.

And then there is off campus. Mahanoy Area School District v. B.L., 594 U.S. 180 (2021), involved a student's profane weekend social media post about not making the varsity cheerleading squad. The Court held the school could not punish it, and identified three features that diminish a school's interest in regulating off-campus speech: the school rarely stands in loco parentis off campus · regulating both on- and off-campus speech would mean regulating all a student's speech, all the time · and schools have an interest in protecting unpopular expression, particularly off campus.

The Court declined to draw a bright line, and expressly noted circumstances where a school's regulatory interest remains substantial — including serious or severe bullying and harassment targeting particular individuals, threats aimed at teachers or students, and breaches of school security devices.

The practical translation for a family: off-campus speech is not automatically protected and it is not automatically punishable. Ask the school to identify the specific disruption it says occurred, and where the speech occurred. The answer frequently determines the outcome.


Searches

New Jersey v. T.L.O., 469 U.S. 325 (1985), holds that the Fourth Amendment applies to searches by school officials, but that the warrant and probable cause requirements do not. The standard is reasonableness under all the circumstances, which has two parts:

  1. Justified at its inception — reasonable grounds to suspect the search will turn up evidence of a violation of law or school rules
  2. Reasonable in scope — the measures used must be reasonably related to the objectives of the search and not excessively intrusive in light of the age and sex of the student and the nature of the infraction

That second prong does real work. The Supreme Court has held that a strip search of a middle school student for prescription-strength ibuprofen, based on secondhand information and without indication the pills were hidden in her underwear, was unreasonable — the suspicion did not match the intrusion.

Where reduced expectations apply: lockers and school property, particularly where policy states they remain school property · suspicionless drug testing of student athletes and participants in competitive extracurricular activities, under the Court's cases in that area.

Where it gets complicated: phone searches. A phone contains an enormous quantity of private information, and the "reasonable in scope" prong should limit a search to what the suspicion actually supports. This is unsettled, it varies by jurisdiction, and it is worth objecting to a general rummage through a device.


When police are involved

A school resource officer is law enforcement. When an SRO participates in questioning, the matter may stop being a discipline case and become a delinquency case — with consequences that outlast the school year.

What families should know:

  • A student's statement to school officials can be used in a delinquency proceeding
  • Whether Miranda warnings are required turns on custody and on who is questioning, and courts have divided on how to treat SRO participation
  • Many states require parental notification before law enforcement questioning of a minor at school, and some require a parent or attorney's presence — check your state
  • A student may decline to answer questions. A family that has told a child, in advance, "if the police are asking, say you want your parent" has given them the single most useful instruction available
  • The school discipline process and the delinquency case run separately, on separate timelines, with separate standards, and what is said in one can be used in the other

See the juvenile justice materials for the delinquency side.


Truancy

Compulsory attendance laws vary substantially, and the consequences escalate: notification · a conference · an attendance contract · referral to a truancy officer or a diversion program · a court petition against the student, the parent, or both · fines · and in some states, effects on driving privileges or public benefits.

What frequently gets missed:

Absences caused by a disability or a chronic health condition are an accommodation question, not a truancy question. A student missing school for medical reasons may need a 504 plan, home or hospital instruction, or an attendance accommodation — and treating it as truancy instead is a recurring error.

Absences caused by homelessness are governed by federal law giving homeless students the right to remain in the school of origin, transportation to it, and immediate enrollment without records. Ask for the district's homeless liaison — every district has one.

Absences caused by bullying or fear are a safety problem presenting as an attendance problem, and the school has obligations regarding harassment that the attendance process does not address.

Absences caused by caregiving, work, or transportation are frequently addressable through schedule modification, credit recovery, or alternative programs — and nobody offers them unless asked.


Records

Education records are governed by 20 U.S.C. § 1232g — FERPA — with regulations at 34 C.F.R. Part 99.

What parents have:

  • The right to inspect and review the student's education records, generally within 45 days of a request
  • The right to request amendment of records believed inaccurate or misleading, and if refused, a hearing, and if still refused, the right to place a statement in the file
  • Control over disclosure, with enumerated exceptions

Two practical points. Request the complete record before any hearing — it frequently contains statements, incident reports, and prior communications the school has not shared. And a disciplinary record follows a student, so the amendment and statement rights matter.


Discrimination and disparities

Discipline is not distributed evenly, and the disparities are large and well documented — by race, by disability status, and by both together.

The legal hooks: 42 U.S.C. § 2000d prohibits discrimination on the basis of race, color, or national origin in federally funded programs · 20 U.S.C. § 1681 prohibits sex discrimination, with regulations at 34 C.F.R. Part 106 · and Section 504 and the ADA prohibit disability discrimination.

Complaints go to the Department of Education's Office for Civil Rights, free and without a lawyer, and to state civil rights agencies.

What supports a claim: the district's own discipline data by race and disability, which is public · comparators — students of a different group who did the same thing and received a lesser consequence · a pattern in the individual student's own file.


Four students

The ten days nobody counted

Ottoline Beauvais-Nkemdirim's son has an IEP for an emotional disability. Over four months he was sent home early six times, given three one-day suspensions, and placed in in-school suspension four times without receiving services.

Nobody counted. The school treated each removal as a separate small matter. When the eleventh incident produced a proposed ten-day suspension and an expulsion recommendation, his mother finally asked a question that changed everything: "How many days has he been removed this year?"

The answer was nineteen — well past the ten-school-day threshold that makes a removal a change of placement.

What should have happened at day eleven, and had not: a manifestation determination · a functional behavioral assessment · a behavior intervention plan · and continued educational services.

Two things families should take from this. Partial days, early dismissals, and in-school removals without services count toward the total — and schools frequently do not track them as removals. Count them yourself, on a calendar, from day one.

And the remedy for what was missed is real: compensatory education, an FBA and BIP the school should have done, and in this case a reversal of the expulsion recommendation.

The evaluation request that arrived in time

Fitzgerald Achebe-Vance had never been evaluated. He was failing, disruptive, and increasingly angry, and his mother had asked twice at conferences whether something might be going on. Nobody wrote anything down.

Then he threw a chair, and the district moved to expel.

The protection he needed depended on whether the school "had knowledge" of a disability before the conduct — which can be established by a parent expressing concern in writing, requesting an evaluation, or school personnel raising specific concerns about a pattern of behavior.

Verbal concerns at a conference are hard to prove. An emailed request for an evaluation is not.

His mother had, three weeks earlier and for unrelated reasons, sent an email: "I'd like to request a special education evaluation for Fitzgerald. He's struggling and I think something may be going on."

That email brought him within the discipline protections. The expulsion proceeding stopped, the evaluation went forward, and the manifestation analysis applied.

The lesson, and it is the cheapest insurance in education law: if you suspect a disability, request an evaluation in writing, today, and keep the copy. It starts a legal timeline and it establishes knowledge, and both matter later in ways nobody anticipates.

The post from the couch

Perpetua Ilunga-Whitcombe posted a profane rant on a Saturday about not making a team. It was on her own account, from her own home, on her own phone, over a weekend.

The school suspended her for a week under a policy prohibiting conduct that "reflects poorly on the school."

That is close to the fact pattern the Supreme Court addressed in the off-campus speech case, where it held the school could not punish it and identified why the school's regulatory interest is diminished off campus: schools rarely stand in loco parentis there · regulating both on- and off-campus speech would mean regulating a student's speech all the time · and schools have an interest in protecting unpopular expression.

The question her parents asked, and it was the right one: "What specific substantial disruption to school operations occurred, and can you describe it?"

The answer was that some students had talked about it. Talk is not substantial disruption, and "undifferentiated fear or apprehension of disturbance" has never been enough.

But note the limit. The Court expressly did not draw a bright line, and identified circumstances where a school's interest remains substantial — serious or severe bullying and harassment targeting particular individuals, threats aimed at teachers or students, and breaches of school security. Off-campus speech is neither automatically protected nor automatically punishable.

The officer in the room

Cassius Oyelaran-Sandoval, fifteen, was pulled from class by an assistant principal and a school resource officer over a report about a vape pen and something someone said about a weapon. He was questioned for forty minutes. He talked, because a fifteen-year-old in a room with two adults and a badge talks.

His statement was used in a delinquency petition.

Three things his family did not know:

An SRO is law enforcement. When one participates in questioning, a discipline matter can become a delinquency case with consequences that outlast the school year.

Many states require parental notification before law enforcement questioning of a minor at school, and some require a parent or attorney present. Their state did. It had not happened.

A student may decline to answer. The single most useful thing a family can do, in advance, is tell a child: "If the police are asking, say you want your parent." That sentence is available to every student and almost none of them have been given it.

What his lawyer did: moved to suppress the statement based on the notification violation, and dealt with the school discipline and the delinquency matter as the two separate proceedings they are — separate timelines, separate standards, and information flowing from one into the other.

Preparing for the meeting

Most discipline outcomes are set in a single meeting, and most parents arrive at it without the three things that would change it.

Before you go:

Get the district discipline policy and the state education code provisions. Both are public. Look for: the definitions of the offense charged · the range of permitted consequences · the notice requirements · the hearing rights · the appeal deadline · and whether educational services must be provided during a removal.

Request the complete education record, in writing. Under FERPA you generally have the right to inspect within 45 days, but ask for it immediately and ask for it before the hearing — it frequently contains incident reports, witness statements, prior communications, and behavior data the school has not shared.

Ask for the evidence, specifically: "What is the school relying on? May I see the incident report, the statements, and any video?"

Talk to your child, calmly, and get their account written down — what happened, in order, who was present, and what was said. Do it before memory is shaped by repetition.

Identify the questions the school has not answered:

  • What exactly is the alleged conduct, and which policy provision does it violate?
  • What is the evidence?
  • Who else was involved, and what consequence did they receive?
  • How many days has my child been removed this year, counting partial days and in-school removals?
  • Is there an evaluation pending, or a 504 plan, or an IEP?
  • What alternatives to removal were considered?
  • What educational services will be provided during any removal?
  • What is the appeal process and the deadline?

In the meeting:

  • Bring someone. A second adult who takes notes changes the room.
  • Ask, do not argue. Questions produce information; argument produces a defended position.
  • Do not sign anything you have not read. A waiver of a hearing is a real waiver.
  • Do not agree to a "voluntary transfer" or "voluntary withdrawal" without understanding what it forfeits — frequently the hearing, the appeal, and the record correction.
  • Write down what was said, and who said it, immediately afterward.
  • Ask for the decision in writing, with the reasons and the appeal deadline.

And the sentence that most often improves an outcome: "Before we finalize this, what alternatives to removal has the district considered, and what would it take to keep him in school?"

Alternatives, and why they matter

Exclusion is strongly associated with worse outcomes — lower achievement, higher dropout rates, and greater involvement with the juvenile system. A student who is out of school is not being educated and, frequently, is not being supervised.

What exists, and is available in many districts if asked for:

Restorative practices — a facilitated conversation among those affected, an agreement about repair, and a plan going forward. Effective for interpersonal conflict, and increasingly available.

Functional behavioral assessment and a behavior intervention plan — required for students with disabilities in certain circumstances, and useful for any student whose behavior is a pattern rather than an incident. The question an FBA answers is what the behavior is accomplishing for the student, which is the only question whose answer changes anything.

In-school alternatives with services — different from in-school suspension in a room with no instruction.

Behavior contracts and check-in/check-out systems.

Mental health referral, which is what a substantial share of discipline matters actually needs.

Alternative schools and programs, which vary enormously in quality — ask what the curriculum is, whether credits transfer, whether there is a path back, and what the graduation rate is.

Reduced or deferred consequences conditioned on completing something specific.

Ask for these by name. A district that will not consider an alternative should say so on the record, and that refusal is useful on appeal.

Bullying and harassment — the other direction

Most of this article addresses a student being disciplined. A large share of families are on the other side: a child being harassed, and a school that is not responding.

The obligations are different from the discipline framework and they are enforceable.

Where the conduct is based on a protected characteristic — race, color, national origin, sex (including sexual orientation and gender identity), disability, or religion — the school has obligations under federal civil rights law. Harassment that is severe, pervasive, or persistent enough to interfere with a student's ability to participate in or benefit from the school's programs, where the school knew or should have known and failed to take prompt and effective action, is actionable.

The standard for a private damages claim under the sex discrimination statute is demanding — the Supreme Court held in Davis v. Monroe County Board of Education, 526 U.S. 629 (1999), that a school may be liable for student-on-student harassment where it acted with deliberate indifference to harassment that was so severe, pervasive, and objectively offensive that it effectively barred access to an educational opportunity — and in Gebser v. Lago Vista Independent School District, 524 U.S. 274 (1998), that liability for a teacher's harassment requires actual notice to an official with authority to take corrective action, plus deliberate indifference.

But the administrative standard is lower than the damages standard, which matters enormously in practice: the Department of Education's Office for Civil Rights enforces these obligations directly, and its complaint process does not require the Davis showing.

Also: nearly every state has an anti-bullying statute requiring districts to have a policy, to investigate reports, and to respond — with timelines and documentation requirements that districts frequently miss.

What to do:

  1. Report in writing, to a named administrator, describing the specific conduct with dates. This is what creates the actual notice the standard requires.
  2. Name the protected characteristic if one is involved. It changes which law applies.
  3. Ask what the district's anti-bullying policy requires — the investigation timeline, the written finding, the appeal.
  4. Ask for interim measures — schedule changes, a no-contact directive, supervision changes — without disadvantaging your child. Moving the victim rather than the aggressor is a recurring and challengeable response.
  5. Document everything, including the school's response and its timing.
  6. Follow up in writing if the conduct continues: "I reported this on [date]. It has continued on [dates]. What action has been taken?"
  7. If the response is inadequate: the superintendent · the school board · the state education agency · and the Office for Civil Rights, which is free and requires no lawyer, generally within 180 days of the conduct.

And note the intersection: a child who is being bullied and starts refusing to go to school is generating truancy referrals for a problem that is not truancy, and a child who fights back is generating discipline for a problem the school failed to address. Say so, in writing, at the time.

Appealing

Nearly every discipline decision is appealable, the deadlines are short, and most families do not appeal because nobody told them how.

Find the deadline first. It is in the district policy and frequently in the decision letter. It is commonly five to ten school days, and it is enforced.

The levels, typically: the principal → the superintendent or a designee → the school board → in many states, a state education agency appeal → and judicial review of a final administrative decision.

What actually wins on appeal, in rough order of effectiveness:

1. Procedural failure. The notice was inadequate or late · the hearing was not held within the required time · evidence was not disclosed · the decision lacked required findings · the required manifestation determination was never conducted · a required consideration of alternatives was skipped. Procedure is the most reliable ground because it is objective.

2. The policy does not cover the conduct. Districts stretch definitions. Read the provision charged and compare it to what actually happened.

3. The consequence exceeds what the policy permits for that offense, or exceeds what was imposed on others.

4. Disparate treatment. Another student did the same thing and received less. This requires names and dates, which is why identifying comparators early matters.

5. Disability. The manifestation analysis was wrong, was not conducted, or the student should have been evaluated.

6. The evidence does not support the finding. Weakest as a standalone ground on paper review, and strongest when paired with a procedural failure.

How to write the appeal:

  • Lead with the relief you want — reversal, reduction, expungement of the record, return to placement.
  • Organize by ground, with a heading for each.
  • Quote the policy provision you rely on, with the section number.
  • Attach the documents — the notice, the decision, the record, your correspondence, the policy pages.
  • State the facts flatly. No adjectives, no history of grievances with the school.
  • Be short. Two to three pages plus attachments.
  • File it in writing, before the deadline, and keep proof of the date.

And ask for two things people forget: that the student be returned to school pending the appeal where the policy permits it, and that the record be expunged if you prevail — because a disciplinary record follows a student into course placement, athletics eligibility, alternative program referrals, and, later, applications.

Where to get help, free

Families in a discipline matter frequently believe the choice is between hiring a lawyer and doing nothing. It is not.

The district's own parent resources. A parent liaison, an ombudsperson, or a student advocate exists in many districts and is frequently effective precisely because they are internal.

The special education parent center. Every state has at least one federally funded Parent Training and Information Center, free, staffed by people who do this daily. They advise on IEPs, 504 plans, manifestation determinations, and discipline, and they will frequently attend a meeting with you.

Protection and Advocacy agencies, in every state and territory, which handle disability-related school matters including discipline and restraint.

Legal aid, many of which have education units.

Law school clinics, which take education cases in many places.

Disability rights organizations and parent support groups, both of which know the local districts.

The state education agency, which has a complaint process for special education and frequently for other matters.

The Office for Civil Rights, free, no lawyer, for discrimination on the basis of race, color, national origin, sex, disability, or age — generally within 180 days of the conduct.

And a private attorney, where the stakes justify it — an expulsion, a delinquency referral, or a pattern of failures. Ask about fee shifting; the special education statute provides for attorney's fees to a prevailing parent, which makes representation available in cases that would otherwise be uneconomical.

One suggestion about sequencing. Call the parent center first, before the meeting rather than after. They are free, they will tell you in twenty minutes what the district is required to do, and they will frequently identify the single question — "how many days has he been removed?" or "has a manifestation determination been conducted?" — that changes the entire matter.

Restraint and seclusion

A subject that belongs here because it is where the most serious harm in school discipline occurs, and because it is the least regulated.

There is no comprehensive federal statute governing the use of physical restraint or seclusion in schools. State law varies enormously — some states prohibit seclusion outright, some prohibit prone and supine restraint, some require training, notification, and documentation, and some have almost nothing.

What most states that regulate it require:

  • Restraint or seclusion only where there is imminent risk of serious physical harm, and only until that risk ends
  • Prohibition of restraints that restrict breathing — prone restraint and anything applying pressure to the chest, neck, or back
  • Prohibition of use for discipline, convenience, or as a substitute for programming
  • Notification to the parent, frequently the same day
  • A written incident report
  • A debriefing and, in some states, a review of the student's plan
  • Training for staff

What families should do:

Ask what the state law and district policy are, in writing, and get copies.

Ask whether restraint or seclusion has been used with your child, and how many times. Districts do not volunteer this, and parents have discovered years of incidents by asking.

Demand written incident reports for every instance — the date, duration, who was involved, what preceded it, and what was tried first.

Ask for a functional behavioral assessment. Repeated restraint of the same child is not a behavior management strategy; it is evidence that the plan is not working and that nobody has asked what the behavior is accomplishing.

Put the objection in writing, and ask that the behavior intervention plan expressly prohibit restraint and seclusion except in a genuine emergency.

And know where to complain: the state education agency · the Protection and Advocacy agency, which has specific authority to investigate abuse and neglect of people with disabilities including in schools · the Office for Civil Rights, because disproportionate use against students with disabilities or students of a particular race is a civil rights matter · and, where an injury occurred, law enforcement and a lawyer.

The pattern to watch for: restraint used repeatedly on the same student, described in reports as brief and necessary, with no functional behavioral assessment, no plan revision, and no notification the parent can recall receiving. That pattern is common, it is documentable, and it is actionable.

Frequently asked questions

What process is my child owed? For a short suspension: notice of the charges, an explanation of the evidence, and a chance to respond — which can be an informal conversation. For a long-term suspension or expulsion, much more, and the specifics come from state law and district policy.

Can they suspend without calling me first? Frequently yes, and the student can be questioned without a parent present. State law and district policy vary, and some states require notification.

My child has an IEP. Count the days. Beyond ten cumulative school days, a manifestation determination is required, and if the conduct is a manifestation the student generally may not be removed. Stay-put may keep them in place during a dispute.

My child isn't identified but I think there's a disability. Request an evaluation in writing today. It starts a timeline and it can establish the school's knowledge, which may bring the discipline protections into play.

They're punishing something posted from home. Off-campus speech is not automatically punishable. Ask the school to identify the specific substantial disruption, and note the Court has said schools rarely stand in loco parentis off campus.

They searched my child's phone. The standard is reasonableness — justified at inception and reasonable in scope. A general rummage through a device based on a minor suspicion is worth objecting to.

A school resource officer questioned my child. That may be a delinquency matter, not a discipline matter. Check whether your state requires parental notification, and get advice before the next interview.

We're getting truancy letters. Ask whether the absences relate to a disability, a health condition, homelessness, or bullying — each has its own framework, and none of them is truancy.

Where do I complain? The district's appeal process · the state education agency · the Office for Civil Rights for discrimination · and for special education, a state complaint or a due process hearing.


Related documents

Educational only, not legal advice. School discipline procedures come primarily from state law and district policy. Find both before the meeting — they are public and they contain rights the school will not volunteer.